I get the feeling of low self worth, loneliness and guilt regularly. I sometimes think of suicide as well. Please help.
Last Updated - Fri, Mar 16 2018
I am feeling lonely, guilty. I think that I am perfect but I am not perfect at all. I am crying and making others to do for me. I can't understand why I am doing this. Some times I think I am not useful at all for the world, I am a waste, I cant focus on anything, I am blaming others.
I can understand all the happenings are because of me. But also I am blaming others if somebody tells me my mistake I cant accept but I realise that I was at fault. Both thoughts are contradictory but it is accompanying me. I am taking decision but I cant do the process. Why? I want to cry but nobody is there to lean. I can't make my life comfortable but I need to take care of my mother.
Once I think about myself I can't understand what I am doing. I am a wasteful being, I can't understand my responsibilities, I am overreacting, I cant understand it. Please help me. Sometimes I think I need to die too. I think I am confused in what to focus and not.
Counselling Psychologist, PhD
Your problem pertains to a lot of troubles in life and my suggestion would be to start online counselling
and therapy sessions with a Psychologist for the same. I can understand the issues you are dealing with are not comfortable and make your life difficult, but you must observe those others also around you who are living life with much more hardships than you. Also before beginning therapy sessions, check with a Psychiatrist for the symptoms you display so that any wrong tendencies can be controlled and your mind put to ease with medicines as and when required.
Ways to feel good about yourself
You do not have to be who you are today, and your life is not scripted. Changing how you feel about yourself means creating a strategy, gathering some new tools, and making yourself into the person you want to be. A good way to start is to stop doing things that hurt.
Remember that the world is not out to get you and it does not punish you. You do that to yourself. Learning to focus on other opportunities or in another direction can give you some perspective.
Overcoming fear makes you stronger, and being a little scared can make you better. You
want to have butterflies; you just want them flying in formation. It helps to understand and admit your fears. Then you can kick them to the curb.
- Recognise that disappointment is part of life
Even the most successful people have to deal with disappointment, but they've learned how to use it to get to the next level of life. The trick is to process your feelings, then take some kind of action.
It is wise to be dispassionate about critical comments. Human's will always bump
heads, but consider the source, and if it's the other person's issue,
ignore it. Learn to respond instead of react, and don't show your ire.
- Summon the strength you have inside
Learn to access and direct your strengths to the highest good for all concerned. Believe that your strength and intelligence can help you deal with anything. Remember that you have survived worse
Counselling Psychologist, PhD
Dr. Vinaya Prabha has great experience in handling cases related to relationship problems, parenting concerns, pre-marital counselling, emotional & psychological abuse, building self-awareness, self-confidence, marital problems, study-related issues, career planning, handling emotions, finding the meaning of life, etc.