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Pain and cramps after intercourse for first time. Is it normal to feel pain when losing virginity?

Last Updated - Wed, Apr 18 2018

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Hi, Doc!

I am a 22-year-old female. My boyfriend and I were planning to have sex for a while, and we did it last week after a lot of anticipation. I experienced severe pain in my abdomen and cramps after the first intercourse. It felt like there was a barrier inside me. I tried to control the pain by taking painkillers which helped little... The pain was also accompanied by bleeding due to which I panicked. My boyfriend did the act at a normal pace so that it wouldn’t hurt, but it did. I am not sure if I am the only one experiencing this pain and I feel very awkward to talk about it to my close friends or visit a gynaecologist. I came across various solutions and medications for it, but I wasn’t sure if it would suit me. I hope you can help me find a solution for these cramps after intercourse. Please advice.

Category: Gynaecology


Dr. Garima Sawhney

M.S.- Obstetrics &Gynaecology
Bharati Vidyapeeth Medical College & Hospital, Pune

Hello, 

Thank you for consulting us. Losing virginity is a big change for one’s body. For most people, their first sexual intercourse is an enjoyable experience which at the same time can lead to complications and discomfort for a few. Some may experience stomach pain and cramps after sex, while others may experience vaginal soreness and pain. Firstly, you must note that the issue that you have been facing isn’t uncommon, so you need not worry about it. Not all women can sleep happily nestled in their boyfriend’s or husband’s arms after having sex. Many women have to deal with a multitude of problems ranging from heavy bleeding to food cravings and also amnesia. It is important to note that having sex for the first time hurts many girls and is absolutely normal and the pain goes away after a few days. There are several reasons that may have caused the pain, and there are also solutions for the same. 

How to stop stabbing stomach pain and cramps after your first intercourse? 

After your first coitus, it is normal to experience stomach and back pain because of the painful spasms of the muscles around the vagina called as Vaginismus. It is also possible that your boyfriend might have bumped into your cervix and bruised it. Another most common cause could be your anxiety and stress as you had sex for the first time. You can follow some of the following solutions if the pain occurs next time:
  1. You can simply relax after the act and not exert yourself with some work
  2. You can try a few Kegel exercises to relax the pelvic muscles and reduce the pain by sitting like you are urinating and contract the pelvic muscles and hold it like that for five to ten seconds and relax. You can repeat this ten times a day, for a week
  3. You can also go on medication such as consuming antispasmodic tablet like Cyclomec twice a day. If the pain worsens, you can consult a doctor
Is bleeding after first coitus normal?

 After you have intercourse for the first time and lose your virginity, it is normal to bleed as the hymen or corona may have ruptured. The hymen is a very thin membrane that covers the vaginal canal and may get ruptured during your first sexual intercourse. It is common to experience spotting for one to three days after having intercourse for the first time. In case you experience it more than three days, it may be advisable to consult a gynaecologist or a physician as it may be an infection. It is also normal to experience discomfort especially due to a swollen and tender vulva. There is also a large percentage of women who do not bleed after their first sexual intercourse as the hymen structure is not the same for all women. 

What is the best pace to avoid discomfort after sex? 

Follow a pace that feels right for you. If it is hurtful during the intercourse, you can stop and stimulate your clitoris a little and start again. You can do this any number of times as it would make your experience intimate and enjoyable. By following this act, you may not experience pain post-coitus, and wouldn’t hurry up to orgasm and contract your muscles too much. 

What are the reasons for pain after first sex?
  1. When one gets sexually active, they tend to become more conscious about their body than before. Even a normal gas problem or any other bodily quirks which may not be noticed otherwise may cause concern out of anxiety. You may subconsciously blame your act for it, which is not the case
  2. When one gets sexually aroused, every part of the body gets extra blood flow. Hence it is normal to feel some different sensations in your body than the regular ones
  3. If one doesn’t reach an orgasm, they may experience vasocongestion also known as “blue balls” which occurs in men as well as women, where the bodily tissues swell up due to increased blood flow resulting in pains and cramps after sexual intercourse.
  4. Sex also has an emotional impact on many. The emotions can build up and physically manifest their body giving them a jittery feeling in the stomach causing the pain
  5. As this was your first time, your muscles are quite tight which are causing the cramping sensations in the muscles and your uterus. Once you get used to the act, your muscles will be more relaxed, and you will be able to enjoy it without any pains
  6. It also depends on the position in which you have sex. Look for a comfortable position that will not make you work out too much
How Insufficient lubrication can cause pain after sex: 

Due to low levels of estrogen, your vaginal tissue may get more fragile which affects the inner walls of your vagina to produce less liquid, making the penetration painful. Due to a rough intercourse, your body muscles can get contracted to give you a stomach pain after the act is over. If you haven’t experienced pain while penetration, using a lubricant can increase your sexual comfort and pleasure dramatically. The best solution is to go forward with some foreplay to enhance arousal, helping you with some natural lubrication. 

There are three types of lubricants which you can use other than your natural one:
  • Oil based lubricant- Baby oil, mineral oils, petroleum jellies, hand creams can be used as lubricants but are not very safe to use for your actions as they do not have a quality control for lubricant use and can lose its effectiveness after using it for a while 
  • Water-based lubricant- Among several brands, the best is to use a lubricant that is designed to mimic fertile cervical mucus with lower salt concentration. It does not have a taste and odour and feels like natural lubrication 
  • Silicone-based lubricant- You can choose any one among several brands at a chemist shop. They do not dry out quickly and leave your skin feeling softer and smoother
Hope we could answer all your doubts. If you have any more questions, feel free to contact a specialist on JustDoc who will provide you with an instant online consultation.

You should also talk to a gynecologist. She might suggest tablets like Meftal Spas or Cyclopam to get relief from pain.

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https://justdoc.com/content/gynecologist/online-gynecologist-advice-free
http://www.med-health.net/Bleeding-After-First-Intercourse.html
http://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/health-info/pain-during-intercourse-or-penetration/
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http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/first_intercourse_101
http://www.nhs.uk/chq/pages/3047.aspx?categoryid=118
http://www.womansday.com/relationships/sex-tips/a1136/9-surprising-post-intercourse-reactions-101056/

Dr. Garima Sawhney

M.S.- Obstetrics &Gynaecology
Bharati Vidyapeeth Medical College & Hospital, Pune

Dr. Garima Sawhney is a Gynecologist in Gurgaon. Her expertise and utmost care and compassion for her patients makes her one of the most sought-after Gynecologists.

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