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I do not feel loved by my mother as my parents have been divorced for a long time. I fear falling in love with a friend who loves me as I do not understand love. Please help me

Last Updated - Fri, Mar 16 2018

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My parents have been divorced since I was 10 years of age. I have not seen my father since then. My mother is a bit short tempered and is very strict towards me. Thus, I do not feel loved by her and I am unable to share any of my issues with her.

Now I feel like taking your advice on this issue. I have a school mate who has been loving me since we were 15 years old. Now I am 20 years old. Recently he got a central government job and he asked me to meet once. I have been ignoring him since 5 years and not even had a single conversation with him because I had a fear that I don't know what love completely means as I have never seen my parents being nice to each other.

But that boy still loves me. I like him but I don't want to become a problem for my mother in this issue. Whom can I ask what to do? I have to mention another important thing that we both do not come from the same background and there are lots of cultural differences between our families. Will that show affect us? I am an average looking girl, fair and short and he is tall and dark. Is there any need to consider all these things before loving him? Please help me.

Category: Psychology


Ms. Samiksha Jain

Counselling Psychologist & Psychotherapist
Lady Irwin College

You can discuss these issues with a Psychologist so that your mind is at ease. In my opinion, you should have no problems in future or difficulties if you approach a relationship with the right mindset. I understand and agree your parents relation has been troubling and you have not learnt much from your childhood in that aspect, but I assure you there are many such families in the world right now that did not get parental idols. Your views are your own and we must respect that. Based on an open conversation, you can discuss it with your friend and check his outlook on life. If you think he is right for you, your mother should be supportive of your decision. You can also discuss this with a psychologist, online at JustDoc.

Ms. Samiksha Jain

Counselling Psychologist & Psychotherapist
Lady Irwin College

Ms. Samiksha Jain is a Psychologist in Bangalore. She offers her clients a friendly, respectable, calm and confidential environment to talk through their difficulties.

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